What is fear? Most of the time fear is a feeling that we bring upon ourselves because of uncertainty. We could be uncertain as to whether something or someplace is safe. for example. This causes us to feel uncomfortable or suspicious of that thing or place. We are not born with fear instilled in us. It has been transferred and instilled in us overtime by our parents, teachers and those people who we come into contact with.
If you watch your kids play, you will realise that they do not really understand what fear is. They like to push boundaries for what it is worth and beyond. When a parent intrudes saying that something should not be done they would argue or at least question why. However, as time passes, we hear so many "don't do's" that we do not realize when fear started creeping into us.
As much as possible, encourage your child to push boundaries. As much as possible, answer their queries with constructive answers or at least guide them into thinking some logic. Do not rush and tell them not to do something. Unless their life is in danger, you must not deter them from trying something. You may be busy. You may be having mood swings. Try, at least, not to rush into stopping something your child is doing because it is of some form of inconvenience to you.
If you watch your kids play, you will realise that they do not really understand what fear is. They like to push boundaries for what it is worth and beyond. When a parent intrudes saying that something should not be done they would argue or at least question why. However, as time passes, we hear so many "don't do's" that we do not realize when fear started creeping into us.
As much as possible, encourage your child to push boundaries. As much as possible, answer their queries with constructive answers or at least guide them into thinking some logic. Do not rush and tell them not to do something. Unless their life is in danger, you must not deter them from trying something. You may be busy. You may be having mood swings. Try, at least, not to rush into stopping something your child is doing because it is of some form of inconvenience to you.
